YOUTH - CHECKLISTED R U ABUSED BY PARENTS????

Signs of Teenagers Abused By Parents

1. You feel afraid of a parent or both parents?
2. You do not discuss certain topics or issues for fear of angering your parent or parents?  
3. You feel you cannot do anything right for your partner?
4. Your parents hit you?
5. You believe that you are the problem in the family and you deserve to be hurt or mistreated?
6. You feel helpless and emotionally numb?
7. Do not know who to tell or what you would tell them; but know that your parent or parents are abusive towards you?
8. Do you fear your parent or parents’ unpredictable temper?
9. Your parent or parents tell you they will hurt you or kill you to make you do things?
10. Your parent or parents blame you for their lack of money, social standing and other problems of adults?
11. Your parents humiliate or yell at you?
12. Your parents criticize you and put you down
13. You do not want friends to visit you at home because of their behaviour towards you?
14. Your parents blame you for their behaviour ‘you made me hit you’?
15. Ignore your accomplishments?
16. Tell you that you are worthless and no one will want you?

STAY-AT-HOME HOUSEWIVES-COMPLAINING ABOUT $400

The notion of Government taxes going into the pockets of people who do not work and have no intentions of engaging in work has always been bemusing.  If you stay-at-home to look after a child; you make a specific lifestyle choice that you should fund.  Claiming that stay-at-home parents do valuable work and paying them tax payers dollars for it means that you also need to pay the disabled and the elderly for doing their own housework, single people for doing housework too-to cook a meal you need one stove, one pot, one shopping trip; someone doing these things for other people still has to do one single act, but add a large volume of shopping, cooking food etc.  All of the other tasks a 'stay-at-home parent' does, paid for out of workers dollars, are the same as aged pensioners who struggle around their homes do, the same jobs as the disabled fiddle about trying to do and the very same things that single wage earners (who pay the most tax) must do at home-besides fund mums who do not want to work.  Do these stay-at-home and pay us tax payers dollars thanks individuals actually think that their previous employment or the employment of their husbands/wives covers what they cost the national-it does not! Australia is already in debt up to its eyebrows because of this give-me, give-me give mentality.  Needless to say if you want to be paid to work in the business of any of the taxpayers dollars you use you will need to prove your worth; the ability to breed does not immediately bestow the ability to be a parent and to raise a child. In fact, raising a child requires a different skill set at different stages of the child's development. All that staying at home and not working does is teach children that living off taxpayers is a lifestyle choice. It is not!  If you think that in eras go by women stayed at home to look after the children; you could not be more wrong. Women looked after the children AND ran farmers, ran shops and even worked as labourers. Yes we know that conditions have improved in the Western World and people no longer give birth one day and get up a few hours latter to work - but understand in many parts of the world that women still do that.  Not to suggest we return to such harsh conditions, but the sooner the so-called baby bonus is abolished along with the other 'special payments' families receive the better - this country can no longer afford it. Additionally, there is no reason why single taxpayers should fund families; these young people can no longer afford to buy a house or in some instances pay their light bills or have health insurance or even food. The solution is simple families - do not have children you cannot afford.  Love and the desire to breed is not enough.

We Do NOT R E C O V E R From Autism

I read a profile of a woman on Tweet who is trying to get her child to the 'recovery' stage of autism.  If you, your child, or someone you know has autism or Asperger's understand one very important point. We do NOT recovery from autism because we do not have a disease. Autism and Asperger's is a way of being; a way you might not like or understand-but it is an essential humaniness that goes beyond the understanding of many neurotypical people. Indeed, many such individuals have created an industry to try to tell parents that their child will 'recover'-your child will not!  You, if you have autism or are an aspie person, will not recover- do you really want to?  Honestly, if you were able to go and full and wholly be in the world of a neurotypical would you want to stay there?  People must learn that those who do not have autism or Asperger's are gifted in ways you will never understand; it is a privilege to have this form of thinking, of perceiving or cognition.  It is the rest of the world who must learn to understand us-more and more people will appear with autism and or Asperger's.  I believe there are very clear and specific reasons for this none of which have anything to do with diet, vaccinations or similar. Money should be spent on teaching the rest of the world to understand and live with our growing population-we are not going to go away. IGNORANCE IS THE GREATEST DISABILITY; A DISABILITY IS REALLY A DIFFERENT ABILITY!

NET BEATING JUDGE in TEXAS SUSPENDED

This blog might be a little bit late; but THANK YOU TEXAS-finally your State has shown some common sense.  For those people who have been under a rock for the last several weeks; this 'big man' and his 'dear wife' flogged into their then 15 year old phyiscally disabled daughter with large leather straps (and we do mean flogged) because she downloaded pirate music.  Yes, it was stealing; but the flogging she got was nothing more than common criminal assualt. Fortunately, the daughter had the presence of mind to have a camera setup in her room and daddy and mommy dearest were caught belting the daylights out of her. If you missed it check You Tube or through my other blogs for the link.  Initially the State of Texas representatives were allegedly claiming that the parents had the right to discipline their child; the rest of the world was saying not like that they don't. Now, the texas Supreme Court has suspended the Judge for this act (which happened in 1994) with pay. His name is William Adams and he carries the title of Aransas County Judge; frightenly some media reports alleged that William Adams was a judge in family court matters.  There was some suggestion by the media that his behaviour on the tape may call into question decisions he has made in some court matters-but that is for Texas (or which ever organisation does that in the USA) to determine.  Over 6 million people have viewed the video of this individual and his wife flogging their child. Apparently, the Texas State Commission on Judical Conduct heard the public outcry over the judge's behaviour captured on video, viewed the video and decided to investigate.  Remember; your voice counts, never think it does not.

R U The Smartest Person In The Room; No One Gets It?

If you often feel that you are the smartest person in the room; but no one gets you.  If you know (based on fact please, not just your personal opinion or self recommendation) that you are right. If you 'correct' people, they do not listen, and you turn out to be right; never say 'I told you so'!  You possibly have an high functioning form of autism. Do not diagnose this yourself; but seek a medical doctor to do so - notice I did not say therapist or psychologist!  Often, older people, and that is anyone over 25 years have this 'so-called' disability to contend with.  It is isolating, furstrating, lonely and almost (unless you were diagnosed as a child and had considerable interevention) may consign you to a life of poverty caused by job hopping. Relationships will be a constant battle of complaints by your partner that you are too critical and always correcting them - that is if you can find anyone to be your partner as this form of autism often comes with a personality that can be seen to be overpowering, rude, agressive and argumentive.  Indeed, at school you may have found it difficult to focus or even been bored and as a result never got the education you needed to work on your own.  A lady in her 60s contacted me recently explaining the problems she encountered which are not that different from what I have written in this blog. The problem is we know that people with this form of high-functioning autism often have high intelligence and the ability to focus at depth to the oblivion of all else which makes them ideal workers - highly resourceful, productive and worth employing. It is the 'social part' of work; the getting on with others without been critical, working in a team etc that is difficult - and that other people do not understand. This form of high-functioning autism is not really a disability; it is a different ability that once we find a way of identifying it and using it in the workplace such people will become much 'wanted' employees for the work they can do. Until then; spread the work - autism is a different ability!

Police Respect?

It appears that only in the UK do Police receive any type of training in dealing with the public in a way that will engender respect for respect.  Mostly; particularly in the USA, citizen’s dealings with Police are aggressive and traumatic-and in some instances that includes the victim’s experiences.  Police often wax and wane about how no one respects them any more. I am not surprised. Recently, a reality TV showed some passengers at a Dakota (I think) airport. The passengers were trying to get the airline to fix mistakes that had left many people stranded, exhausted and just wanting to get home.  What I saw on the programme (and remember the producers would have used the most dramatic footage possible) was people been firm about the need for the airline problems to be solved so they could each continue their individual journeys.  I did not see anything that could be taken to be threatening or abusive behaviour towards staff. I should add that staff were standing their ground and refusing to offer assistance to the stranded passengers because of 'airline policy'. Staff called the Police for what was essentially a civil matter-the airline did not honour whatever contract was in place to transport the passengers in a timely fashion from one destination to another.  The Police arrived and were immediately aggressive and abusive towards the passengers-the crime of the passengers; they were standing at the counter in a non-threatening manner repeatedly asking for the counter staff to make the necessary arrangements. Police took no notice of what was going on and immediately assumed the passengers were people acting with the intent to physically harm the staff.  It started with the Police yelling abusively at the passengers - guess which State in the USA I am going to make sure I never travel to; if that is the way the Police treat people involved in a civil dispute I shudder to think what Police would do in a criminal matter.  The point is you get back what you give out. In Australia too many Police have watched too many Police shows and try desperately to act with great authority and importance - which does not create a communicative atmosphere to begin with.  I saw an Australian Police cadet show were a trainee was berated by the lecturers for been 'too pleasant' in a practical exercise which involved arresting someone.  Well, if you can get a person to respond to you without been aggressive and threatening is this not better for them and for you. Who wants to go to work every day and be expected to yell abuse in the name of professionalism? Police educators need to teach old fashioned civility; and then to go to aggressive authoritian behaviour if it is required.

Texas Judge Flogs Disabled Daughter-and gets away with it.

Anyone who has not yet seen the disturbing footage of a Texas family court judge flogging his 15 year old daughter for illegally downloading music off the Net should Google the footage.  The point I wish to make is that under current law in Texas and in many other countries (and States of the USA) many people consider this outright violence to be acceptable parenting.  Remember, not that long ago-in living memory for many older folk the following was legal;

• rape in marriage (outlawed, from memory, in the 1960s in Australia)
• hitting you wife to correct her errors (check your State's/countries legal history)

While earlier on; in what is really but the blink of an eye in time imoral we also;

• gave errant children to the elders to stone to death
• believed slavery was a right of the mighty (and there were slaves of all colours and creeds)

Texans should be outraged as a community and as a State; but they are not. Many believe that they have God given write to beat children like this and worse.  The girl said that she could not walk properly for days after. Her male parent can be seen flogging her with a large leather belt any where he can get access to; and her mother also joins in the flogging turning up with a second belt.

I have bet one comment to make on this disgraceful and cruel treatment of a young teenager - I absolutely guarantee that this 15 year old (now aged in her early 20s) has illegally downloaded material from the Net again after her parents violence and abuse. The flogging was about the parent's anger; not the child's development.  Looking at the pictures made me think that the judge would be better punching into a punching bag in the garage.  Children begin by loving their parents; after a time they judge them; rarely, if ever, do they forgive them.         Oscar Wilde (1854-1900)  Now, Dad thinks his daughter has released the video of the attack to get back at him; well there's a surprise. Flogging a child or teen does not create a loving, supportive, encouraging environment-never think it does.